How much of our precious time on this earth do we waste away worrying? Sadly, a WHOLE LOT if you are like most people (including me!)
It’s party just how we are wired. That negatively biased brain of ours is there to protect us, so it’s quick to come up with all the ways things could go wrong. And the more you worry the stronger that “worry muscle” becomes.
I’d hate to even count all of the things I didn’t do, words I didn't say, and add up all the energy and time I have frittered away in my 53 years all because I worried about them so much that I ended up not doing or saying what I really wanted to. Ugh.
So today I have a reminder for you!
(courtesy of @postivelypresent - a page on Instagram that I just love!)
Ok, you say, so what can I do about it? It’s “just how I am”.
Well, my reply to that is “Yes, and…you can also learn to rewire and retrain your brain so you spend WAY LESS time worrying and WAY MORE time living and enjoying the present moment!!”
It’s all about learning to PAUSE and NOTICE. In that pause, you get to make a choice. Here’s a great list of questions you can ask yourself when you pause that can create a major mind shift! (again from @positivelypresent)
This one is such a keeper I highly recommend printing it out and keeping it in your “tool kit” of helpful reminders. Try it out this week the next time you find yourself flexing that worry muscle!
I’d love to hear how it works for you! And please feel free to share it with any of your worry-wart friends and family.
I am learning every day to allow the space between where I am and where I want to be to inspire me, and to find grace for myself on the days when I fell stuck and uninspired.
This one, my friend, is a feeling and a practice I deal with all of the time. Seeing where I want to be and freezing in my tracks when I allow myself to get overwhelmed by what my mind perceives as the many roadblocks in the way of my success.
It’s what keeps most people stuck in their same old life…FOREVER.
It is definitely way easier and more comfortable to stick with the familiar that to branch out on an unfamiliar path. The unknown is scary. Or at least our mind likes to tell us it is. So we stay in the uninspiring, soul sucking job or we let the months and years just drift by in a relationship that no longer meets our needs simply because it’s what we know.
We might daydream about that better life, but the path to get there looks very long and complicated. We put that dream in a box on the shelf and get on with life as is.
So, how do I get unstuck?
I practice PAUSING and I celebrate the small things. I look for the little steps I've taken and that I can take that will get me at least an inch closer rather than the miles I might perceive are still ahead of me. I look for at least one thing to be grateful for in that moment which always leads to many, many more.
Some days, when I'm feeling delicate, I give myself a whole lot of self-love and permission to just be and breathe. I get outside and move my body while I listen to an inspiring podcast. I reach out to a friend or my coach for a pep-talk. I remind myself of all the reasons why what I am seeking is important to me, my happiness, and my contribution to the world.
Then the next day I tell myself to put on my damn big girl panties and get some shit done!! I make a short list that feels do-able and I dive in. I congratulate myself for what I get done because I am now one step closer to where I want to be.
And I remind myself constantly that it's the journey that matters. It's the moments I savor along the way that I will remember. It’s how I feel and how I make others feel in my presence that will make an impact on the world.
Meet Mary Baker ..LIFE COACH, YOGA TEACHER, MINDFULNESS GUIDE, RECOVERING PERFECTIONIST & PEOPLE PLEASER, FEAR CONQUEROR, TRUTH SEEKER, & DREAM WEAVER